Me Me Me - It's All About Me

Can we say selfish? You say this is about your child and protecting her, but the situation is really all about you. You stated your choices - Let him in your home so that the rest of the inlaws stay in touch or be a stubborn bitch and not invite your BIL over therefore leaving you to explain to your child why they don't know their grandparents. Wow, yeah. That's a hard one.

You have personal issue against your BIL that go way beyond not wanting him to 'influence' your child. It's just easier for you to justify your feeling by bringing up all the issues he has in his life. See? It's really more about you and your grudge. Not about what kind of horrible person your child might become if God forbid she comes in contact with him a couple times a year. How about this? Raise your child to be a good person and help guide her to make good choices in life. Teach her that not everyone makes the right choices all the time, but that she should accept people for who they are and reach out to them if they can. You don't want him to have a negative affect on her? Then be a good parent and guide her in the right direction. Stop making this a pissing contest with your BIL.